How to Play Private Game
Here's how to play Private Game, an intimate card game for couples: pick a session length and an intensity tier, then take turns drawing cards that move through three phases — Connection, Exploration and Passion. A single session runs 20–45 minutes, works on one phone, a shared screen or across distance, and is free to start.
How to play — step by step
- Open Private Game on your phone or TV
Visit private-game.app in any modern browser — no app store install needed. Open it on one phone for a single-device session, or cast to your TV using display mode for a shared-screen experience.
- Choose your mood & session length
Pick Quick (15 cards) or Classic (22 cards). Then set your tier ceiling: Spark and Warmth for a flirty evening, Heat and above for something more. You can also choose a mood like Romantic, Playful or Intense.
- Pass the phone (or use shared-screen mode) and take turns drawing cards
Each turn, the active player draws a card and follows its prompt. Pass the phone between turns — or let your TV screen show the card while both of you use your phones to control the session.
- Answer questions, do tasks and dares, and deepen through the tiers
Cards move through three phases — Connection, Exploration and Passion — gradually building intimacy. Questions spark conversation, Tasks and Dares create shared moments, Duets bring you closer together.
- Finish with aftercare & the wish reveal
After the final card, both players rate how the session felt and can share a brief note. If scores are tied, both wishes are revealed together. If not, the winner reveals theirs first.
The five card types
The three phases
Every Private Game session moves through three consecutive phases, each building on the last. Connection opens the evening with lighter, conversational cards that ease you into playfulness together. Exploration gradually raises the stakes — prompts become more personal, physical, and revealing. Passion is the final stretch, where the session reaches its most intimate and intense cards before closing with aftercare.
The phase boundaries happen automatically based on card position — you never have to manage the arc manually.
Choosing your intensity
Private Game uses five tiers — Spark, Warmth, Heat, Fire and Inferno — to let you set your own ceiling. You choose the highest tier you want to include before each session, and the deck is built accordingly.
For the full breakdown of what each tier contains and how they differ, see our tier guide.
Ways to play: one phone, shared screen, or across distance
The default mode is pass-the-phone: one device handles everything and you hand it back and forth between turns — no second device needed.
In Shared-screen mode, a second device (a TV, laptop or tablet) shows the cards in full screen while each player uses their own phone as a controller. The two devices stay in sync over a private WebSocket room, so no one has to squint at a small screen or pass anything around.
Small groups. Private Game isn't only for two. Add more players in setup and turns rotate through everyone — the same phase arc and tier ceiling apply, so a group of four moves from Connection to Passion together, at a pace you all agreed to.
Playing apart. You don't have to be in the same room. In long-distance mode, each partner plays from their own phone and the session stays in sync between you, turn by turn — live when you're both online, or at your own pace when you're not. Same deck, same arc, built for couples who are apart.
Aftercare & the wish reveal
After the final card, the game moves into an aftercare screen. Each player independently rates how the session felt across a few dimensions and can leave an optional note — a moment to reflect before the evening winds down.
The wish reveal follows: at the start of a session, each player sets a secret wish for the evening. Once ratings are submitted, session scores are compared. If the scores are tied, both wishes are revealed at the same time. If one player has a higher score, their wish is revealed first — the other's only opens by mutual consent.
Ready to play? Open private-game.app — it works in any modern browser, no installation required.
Frequently asked questions
Related reading
- Tier guide — Spark through Inferno explained in depth
- Questions to ask your partner — conversation starters beyond the game
- Date night ideas — how to set the scene before you play
- FAQ — all common questions answered
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